As moms, we want to give our children a happy childhood. We want to give them our best, but deep down we may feel that we haven’t been making our children the priorities they should be. Though we have been providing material things for them and giving them the opportunities we feel they need, we often allow our own busy schedules to steal time and training that really belong to them.
The true purpose of parenting is to help connect each family member’s heart to one another, to inspire good behavior in our children, and lead them to become respectful, obedient and happy. We do this by making our homes places of cheerfulness and joy.
Successful parenting is based on capturing our child’s affections, and once we’ve done this, parenting will become a pleasure and joy instead of a frustrating struggle. You may have wondered how to connect with your child. It is possible. A family that’s connected through affections is one that feels each other’s joys and pains, one in which each member would rather suffer than to cause another hurt.
Ways to Inspire Connection
It starts with being observant, knowing what’s going on in our children’s world. What do they talk about with each other? With their friends? What topics are they interested in?
We need to become familiar with their world – their wants, likes and needs – as well as their spiritual world. And not only with our children’s, but with our spouse’s as well.
In the midst of building a connected family, children will still be children. They will make mistakes and do things that need correcting. How we approach them at these times will determine what type of results we’ll get. Showing kindness and encouragement will win our children to us, but giving criticism will drive them away.
The way we raise a healthy happy child is to be consistently kind, forgiving, and tenderhearted. Then they will be more inspired to listen to us and obey. We should determine each day to win our children’s hearts by doing deliberate acts of kindness, which will do much in inspiring good behavior. This may require daily prayer, but it is possible.
These same principles also apply to how we as parents should interact with each other. By being forgiving, kind and compassionate to our spouse, we can ignite a solid connection that stands the test of time.
How To Connect With Your Child
As you begin to implement these principles, beware of that thief that threatens to take away precious family time and distract us from our priorities – it’s called technology. Technology is taking our time and our energy. It will ultimately steal our family’s happiness, if we let it.
Spending time on our smart phones, browsing the internet, watching TV or playing video games lulls families into living lives in individual worlds. These distractions lead families down the path of spending less and less time together.
By planning daily “family time,” time where all family members interact with each other in electronic-free activities, you help build friendships amongst each other, minimize small annoyances, and draw the hearts of each family member closer.
To give you some ideas of family time activities, I’ve created this free printable: 59 Electronic-Free Activities for Kids. Download a copy, schedule your family dates, and begin building a connected family.